How a Bereavement Coach can help you understand your loss
When loss strikes…
Bereavement embraces people, homes, jobs, pets…
It can happen to any one of us at any time. You lose someone – or something – that is precious and means the world to you.
Often the word ‘loss’ or ‘bereavement’ is only associated with death of someone close to you.
Loss…when no-one has died
Whilst friends and relations may understand the loss of a loved one, they may inadvertently dismiss how something like the loss of a business, family, house, a miscarriage or even losing a pet, can affect you so deeply.
Bereavement coaching is an extremely positive step to take to help you come to terms with all kinds of loss. It’s about finding strength after bereavement.
Sometimes, grief comes hurtling out of the blue, knocking you off course with a swift, sudden and painful shock.
At other times, you think you are prepared for the worst but when that worst arrives, you realise you were not. The shock nestles in tight and the sense of emptiness is profound.
There are those who think they can sail through unscathed, and then the thing plonks down, and you’re crying out for help.
You must at all costs ‘be positive’ and ‘keep cheerful’ and all those other things we often feel we’re expected to be at such times.
You become determined to keep soldiering on…and a whole plethora of emotions can jump on you while you do. There can be the terrible sense of guilt, hurt, fear, loneliness, panic, loss of confidence and trust, even anger. All normal.
Every one of us will react differently to different scenarios, from throwing yourself into work, non-stop talking or wanting to be alone. This is part of the healing process in gradually coming to terms with the loss. All natural.
Just get on with it
Unfortunately well-meaning associates can inadvertently contribute to your grief. Some typical phrases you might hear are:
‘You’ll get over it,’, ‘You just have to put it behind you now and move on’, ‘What’s the point of moaning about it, what’s happened has happened, you can’t bring it back.’ They are not helpful.
Something lost, something found
Life coaching or a bereavement coach can help you understand the turmoil of these conflicting emotions, and any intermittent, out of character behaviour, allowing you to give them time to drift away.
Whilst you may never forget, or want to forget, what you have lost, the right process of bereavement can help you put it in perspective, accepting what has happened, rather than fighting or suppressing the event.
You may even find you can look back, hold the good memories…and find yourself smiling.
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