We have relationship mediation centres across Worcestershire and Gloucestershire. To find your local centre please contact us.
What is couples’ mediation?
Couples’ mediation is for couples who would like to repair their relationship and stay together.
Most relationships at some point face challenges, especially when there are strong emotions and beliefs, frustration or when there has been a break down in communication. If communication and common ground isn’t sourced and the trust and rapport are not repaired, the relationship may breakdown further resulting in separation/divorce.
Relationship mediation is where a mediator will facilitate the discussion between you and your partner about the issues that you feel are negatively affecting the relationship. The mediator will encourage you to open up and speak about how you feel, and they will also encourage you to listen to each other and think about potential resolutions.
Our mediators are compassionate and provide a caring, non-judgmental, private and safe environment for you to explore your thoughts and feelings. Mediators are unable to provide any type of legal advice.
If you or your partner have decided to go your own separate ways family mediation, which is for divorce and separation, may be more appropriate. For more information on family mediation please click here.
How does the process work?
First you will attend a MIAM (mediation information assessment meeting) on your own. In this meeting you will explore the issues you feel you need to attend mediation for. The mediator will also explore the mediation process with you and how it may support you and your partner. Your partner will also attend this meeting on their own. From this point you will both attend a joint session. In the joint sessions the mediator will set an agenda where you and your partner will jointly agree which items you wish to explore. Then it is a case of working through each agenda point so you and your partner can discuss each point and reach an agreement where possible.
At the end of the process you can have a Memorandum of Understanding, which is a physical document that explores all of the agreements you and your partner have made. This is a really useful document that you and your partner can refer to, in order to keep your relationship on track.
Most couples who attend our relationship mediation service usually have between 1-5 sessions. The mediator is unable to quote exactly how many sessions it will take, as this is dependent on the issues raised and the amount of issues you are wanting to discuss.
Some couples may also wish to attend couples counselling as well as couples’ mediation.
What reasons do people attend relationship mediation for?
- Finances and how money is spent
- Contribution – can be financial or other
- Job Loss
- Problems with children
- Issues when there is a step-parent involved
- Moods and emotions
- Intimacy and affection
This list is not exhaustive, there is not a limit as to the topics that can be raised in mediation. It is merely about the topics in which you want to discuss.
How can couples’ mediation help you and your partner?
Couples’ mediation can support you both to relate to each other and actually listen to what each other are saying, understanding the difficulties each other are facing and empathise with one another. You and your partner will learn techniques in which to effectively communicate, identify and resolve future conflict.
There are many benefits to engaging in the mediation process.
- Mediation can help to re-establish communication between you and your partner as well as listening skills and respect
- Mediation can provide you with conflict management skills
- Our relationship mediators are trained and experienced, which ensures respect is maintained throughout mediation, that you both get equal time to speak and also to ensure that you are both listening to each other
- Mediation is a way to address underlying issues and emotions in a positive, non-judgemental environment
Questions people ask about our relationship mediation services
How much does it cost?
Please visit our fees page for the costs of relationship mediation.
How are relationship mediators trained?
Centre for Resolution’s relationship mediators are all family mediators who deal in divorce and separation cases. They are also trained coaches and are therefore able to combine their coaching skills such as active listening, reflecting, reframing etc, with their mediation training and experience to bring a unique support service to couples in crisis.
What is the difference between counselling and mediation?
Mediation, unlike counselling, does not go too far into the past, the aim is to look at the issues you and your partner are facing and find solutions for you to move past them and look to the future. Mediation also supports individuals to think about their own solutions to the dispute/conflict they are experiencing.
Counselling also takes a psychological perspective, that mediation does not. We therefore do not recommend that you replace couples counselling with relationship mediation, the two should be used side by side.
Should me and my partner research divorce?
The key is to attend mediation with an open mind, positivity and a willingness to discuss and negotiate. This will give you the best start at repairing your relationship.
However, it may be beneficial for you and your partner to find some information on divorce and the process to becoming divorced.
Divorce is the last resort and you and your partner have shown that you want to repair and save your relationship by engaging in mediation.
Centre for Resolution has multiple relationship mediation centres across Worcestershire and Gloucestershire.
To speak to one of our mediators or to find your local relationship mediation service, please call us on 01905 330055 or complete the contact form.